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Sep 25, 2024

Breaking Free from Feeling Stuck and Frustrated: Understanding and Shifting Your Energy

Learn how recognizing and shifting the energy of frustration and stagnation can unlock new levels of growth in your career, leadership, and job search.

Breaking Free from Feeling Stuck and Frustrated: Understanding and Shifting Your Energy
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Joe Rosenbaum

Advisor & Strategist

With 25 years of experience as an HR executive, I've had the privilege of building HR departments from the ground up and collaborating closely with CEOs, CFOs, and other C-suite executives.

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Stuck in Your Role? Frustration May Be Running the Show

In business, whether you're leading a team, managing a project, or searching for your next career move, one thing can stop you cold:

Feeling stuck.

It’s that heavy, sinking feeling when you’re unsure of what to do next or when the options in front of you all feel like dead ends. Or maybe you're feeling frustrated, battling the same problems over and over without making any headway. These aren’t just feelings; they’re energy states, and they shape how you show up at work and in your career.

But the good news? You have the power to shift out of these states. You just need to know how to recognize them—and how to break free.

How Stuck Energy Holds You Back in Business

Whether you’re an entry-level employee or a seasoned executive, feeling stuck is something we all face. Maybe you’re in a role where growth feels impossible. Maybe you're trying to manage a team but can’t figure out why things aren’t moving forward. Or maybe you’re on the hunt for a new job, but the process feels like quicksand.

Signs of being stuck in your professional life:

  • You feel uninspired and unmotivated.
  • You keep delaying decisions because nothing feels quite right.
  • You’re going through the motions without any real passion for what you’re doing.

We all like to believe that we’re in control, but this kind of stuck energy can quietly take over our work life. Suddenly, you’re in meetings but not really contributing. You’re managing projects, but your heart’s not in it. Or you’re sending out resumes, but you’ve already convinced yourself you won’t hear back.

This energy makes everything feel harder than it should be.

In business, staying stuck has consequences. It impacts your ability to lead, to inspire your team, and to make strategic decisions. It can slow your career development, causing you to miss opportunities for growth and advancement.

And if you’re in a job search, this energy is obvious—it shows up in how you present yourself, how you speak about your experience, and even how you respond to setbacks.

Why Frustration Feels Like Progress—But Isn’t

Here’s the tricky part: Frustration can feel productive. It’s active. You’re working on things, dealing with fires, and venting about issues to colleagues. But the truth is, frustration is often just resistance dressed up as action. It creates a constant state of conflict where you’re always fighting against something but rarely resolving anything.

In leadership or management roles, this frustration can look like trying to push through without addressing the root causes of problems. Maybe you’re managing people and feel like you’re always butting heads with your team. Or maybe you’re in a career rut, and every small challenge at work feels like the final straw.

Signs you’re in a state of frustration:

  • You feel like you’re constantly battling the same issues.
  • You catch yourself blaming others—colleagues, bosses, or the system—for your problems.
  • You’re exhausted from trying to control everything but feel like you’re getting nowhere.

If you’re frustrated, it’s easy to externalize the problem. “If only my team would listen.” “If only this job search wasn’t so difficult.” “If only my boss recognized my value.”

But here’s the reality: frustration is usually a sign that you’re avoiding something deeper, like a change you know you need to make or a truth you don’t want to face.

It’s easier to fight the world than to sit with the discomfort of uncertainty or growth.

How to Shift the Energy—and Start Making Progress

The first step to shifting these energy states is recognizing them. Awareness is key. You can’t solve a problem you’re pretending isn’t there. So, ask yourself: Are you stuck in a role that doesn’t light you up anymore? Are you frustrated with how things are going but unsure what to do next?

Here’s how to start shifting the energy:

  1. Get Present: When you’re stuck or frustrated, you’re usually caught in a cycle of negative thinking or overanalyzing the past and future. Take a step back and focus on the present moment. What can you do today to create movement, even if it’s small?
  2. Challenge Your Thinking: When you catch yourself thinking, “This is hopeless” or “Nothing will change,” stop and ask: Is that really true? Or are you just stuck in a pattern of negative thinking? Reframe the situation and ask, “What’s one small step I can take to move this forward?”
  3. Take Action, Even If It’s Uncomfortable: Progress comes from movement. It doesn’t have to be a giant leap—small steps count. If you’re feeling stuck in your job, talk to your boss about new opportunities or explore new learning experiences. If you’re managing a team and constantly frustrated, take a hard look at your leadership style and be open to making changes.

In job hunting, taking action might look like reaching out to a new connection, applying to a role that feels like a stretch, or investing time in improving your resume or interview skills. The key is to create momentum.

Intentional Action: The Key to Real Growth

The reality is this: You can’t solve the problem with the same thinking that got you into it. When it comes to leadership, career development, or job hunting, staying comfortable feels safe—but it’s actually the biggest barrier to progress.

Often, we resist change because our brains see it as a threat. It’s easier to stick with what we know, even if it’s not working. We rationalize our frustrations and convince ourselves that things will get better on their own.

They won’t.

And while it might feel helpful to ask friends or colleagues for advice, they often reinforce what’s already comfortable. If you really want to break through these energy states, you need unbiased feedback—tools and insights that challenge your assumptions and push you forward. Whether it’s a mentor, a coach, or even an assessment that reveals blind spots in your thinking, the goal is to stop playing it safe and start taking intentional action.

If you’re ready to move past the rationalizations and start creating real change in your career, leadership, or job search, it’s time to dig deeper.

Take action that gets you uncomfortable. Seek out resources that offer a fresh perspective.

The growth you’re avoiding is exactly what you need.

Final Thoughts: Moving From Stuck to Empowered

Feeling stuck or frustrated doesn’t have to define your career. These are simply energy states that can be shifted with the right awareness and actions. When you stop fighting against yourself and start leaning into intentional growth, everything changes. Leadership becomes clearer. Career development accelerates. And job hunting becomes less about survival and more about pursuing the role that truly fits.

Your energy is your responsibility. Start owning it, and you’ll be surprised how much can change when you decide to break free.

Are you ready to take the first step?

Learn more about what our 3-step Potentialist Framework can offer and how it helps you to find what you are truly capable of.